I have never advertised domain brokerage services, and I have no interest in becoming a domain broker. That hasn’t stopped people and companies from asking me to broker domain names on both the buy and sell side. I recommend that if you are not in the brokerage business, you shouldn’t agree to acquire a domain name on behalf of someone else (or sell one for that matter).
A while back, a personal acquaintance that isn’t in this business asked me about a domain name that was related to his business. I did a cursory check and saw that it was not a developed website. He asked that I pursue the domain name for him, and I agreed to help him out at no cost because I am not a broker and I figured it would be straightforward enough. After an email exchange, I was able to get the owner to sell it for an agreeable price. Unfortunately, the buyer decided against making the purchase, and that left me in an unfortunate position.
As someone who buys domain names as part of my business, I am often asked for advice about domain names. When the advice is from someone I don’t know (aka blog reader), it’s easy to say “sorry, I am not a broker or consultant” and the conversation is usually over. When it comes to being asked for advice from friends and family, it’s more complicated. Most of the time, this is casual conversation that doesn’t go anywhere. On occasion, I will agree to help a friend with their domain name needs, which usually amounts to hand registering a domain name on their behalf.
Agreeing to buy a domain name on behalf of someone else was a bad decision that I am not going to repeat. If you aren’t in the business of brokering domain names (ie having contracts with clients and operating a corporate entity), I would recommend that you don’t agree to buy a domain name on behalf of someone else. You can offer guidance and advice about the process of buying a domain name, but it’s unwise to get in the middle of a transaction, especially if there is limited benefit.
If a deal goes south or problems occur during the transfer process or after, both parties may look to you to help resolve the situation. It can be a time suck at best and a potential financial problem at worst. At the end of the day, your reputation is on the line.
I feel for you. While many of my friends are business owners, I get these requests constantly. I usually provide the advice or chase after the domain in question but limit my involvement. I typically “represent the buyer” in a broker capacity while negotiating and set up escrow for 0% commission and then step aside. If a friend is asking for a lot of work, I opt for explaining how to go about the research themselves. I never put myself in the position of buying the name on their behalf unless it’s a small acquisition and I’m not concerned about the getting stuck with the cost.
Although I have done so in the past I never offer to do this for someone (for free) and won’t get involved more than a few words of advice.
Otherwise it ends up taking a tremendous amount of time to get things done right – even just the parts (not negotiating) but dealing with the transfer at the registrar and/or escrow.com etc.
Everything has to be explained and there are a ton of nuances and gotchas.
Usually people who wants domains are not realistic as far as what they want to pay. And if they have money to pay then someone should be getting paid to do the handholding (which can take quite a bit of time). If they don’t have money it’s a non starter.
As far as “If a friend is asking for a lot of work” – nobody expects a lawyer or a doctor or an accountant do provide free labor. For that matter a handyman wouldn’t spend 1 hour at your house doing a repair as a friend (if you had money) they would expect to be paid or perhaps a trade of time would be done.
I’ll tell you the best way to handle this. If a friend doesn’t want to pay for the work pass them off to someone who only does the work on a paid basis and let them handle the transaction.
As a kid I didn’t really understand “no good deed goes unpunished” but as I got older I saw the wisdom of the saying.
You can help friends move or paint a room or build a deck but a domain purchase is a financial transaction involving negotiations, payment, transfer etc.
Maybe give them some background on the industry but then have your friend engage the services of a professional domain buyer broker.
Same for the sales side, tell them to hire a professional that specializes in domain sales.
Did you end up buying/paying for the domain or did you have to back out?