I saw a great poster in my daughter’s music class a couple weeks ago (they share the space with a martial arts studio), and I thought it was appropriate to share here, as it is relevant to all of us, too. While the vast majority of comments that are posted by visitors on my blog are helpful, there are occasional comments that are neither helpful nor polite. These can be aggravating, annoying, and frustrating to read, and I assume that many of you feel the same way about them.
Before you post a comment on this blog, on other domain blogs, on domain forums or anywhere else you post online, I urge you to THINK:
- Is it True?
- Is it Helpful?
- Is it Inspiring?
- Is it Necessary?
- Is it Kind?
I am sure our opinions differ on a variety of topics. The nature of this business is that there are many ways to make money (or lose money), and just because I am doing one thing successfully and you are doing the complete opposite thing successfully does not mean that one of us is wrong.
When you share feedback or advice, it is appreciated. If I am wrong and you correct me, that is appreciated. If you tell someone else that he or she is doing something wrong, that is also appreciated. We are all learning here.
If you are rude about the way you reply to someone or to something, even if you are well intentioned, it’s likely that your message will be lost. People, myself included, tend to get defensive when they are challenged or criticized. It’s a natural and expected reaction. The way around this is to be respectful in the way you comment. I want to know if I am wrong about something, but I certainly don’t want to be called stupid.
I don’t censor comments on my blog unless a threat is made or something similar which hardly ever happens. However, it is a poor reflection upon the person who is overly rude or disrespectful to other people who are willing to share comments and advice.
I certainly don’t expect everyone to get along with each other, but at the very least, I think we should all be respectful to each other and to THINK before we post comments. I can use that reminder from time to time, and I think we can all benefit from treating each other better.